I Quit.


That quote is one of my favorites. I wholeheartedly believe in it. If you don't like something about your life, only you can fix it! No one else is going to do it for you. It might not happen overnight. It might take weeks, months, years, or even a lifetime, but you do have the power to make a change and go in a different direction.

To make the change though...you might have to quit something else, close a door, abandon the road you're on. I don't generally advocate quitting, but if you're doing it so you can make progress to something better, then I support it 100%. I'm linking up with Kathy @ Vodka and Soda to share this Humpday Confession with you: I quit.


I quit my job. I'm not talking about the job I had in college working at a car wash for a month. No, I didn't just quit a job, I quit a career. A career I spent 4 years of college working toward, one that I had to get a Bachelors, Masters, and license for. One that gave me summers off, for crying out loud. And despite all of that, I quit.

I make reference to school sometimes on the blog, but it's not something I've talked a lot about. Yes, I am currently in school, but for the last 3 years of my life, I taught school. So why did I quit? (in no particular order)

  • I hated having to be "on" all the time. I'm a true introvert so for me, teaching felt like a performance to me. Yes, I was myself, but I was a version of myself that only existed in the classroom. I didn't feel like I was a real person, but more of a performer who also had to come up with a new script every single day, memorize it, act it out, and direct it all at the same time. It was exhausting. And you know how sometimes you're just so frustrated and you just need a minute to get it together?! Doesn't happen when you're standing at the front of a classroom. There are no breaks, no time-outs. It didn't fit my personality and most days, I left feeling emotionally drained.
  • It didn't challenge me. Being in charge of 20 teenagers' every move for 90 minutes at a time is certainly challenging, just not in the way I need to be challenged. After I started teaching, I realized that I need to learn things at my job, and have problems to solve. With teaching, most of my day was spent teaching people things I already knew. It was fun at first but seeing as that was going to be the only thing I ever did, on a loop, forever, I knew it wouldn't last. 
  • The pay. I'm not ashamed to admit that. I know I shouldn't measure my worth by how much someone pays me (especially since right now I don't get paid anything, ha!), but seeing my husband bring home paychecks that were double what mine were really stung. It wasn't so much the numbers themselves but the principle of it. He's a super smart, hard-working guy, but he's not twice as smart and hard-working as I am!
  • The negativity. I know this probably exists at every job, except maybe if your job is literally staring at puppies all day (where do I sign up?), but it was rampant. I guess underpaying people, putting them in charge of unruly teenagers, and then not giving them raises or any other show of appreciation for their work will do that. But seriously, if you've never spent any time in a teacher workroom, don't start now. The worst part? Every single day, everyone complained about the exact. same. things. as the day before. It was an endless cycle. Maybe it would have been different at another school, but ultimately I knew that wasn't going to be the solution to how I felt at work.
Okay, okay, I know what you're thinking.


But it's not like that. And before we go any further, I also have to confess that there were things I loved about teaching. For all of the things that I didn't like about it, there were definitely plenty of things I did like. I had some wonderful co-workers, some amazing students, and a lot of my days were just fine. 

But that was just it: it was fine. I didn't hate going to work (not any more often than most people anyway), but I didn't love it either. By 2 years in, I realized that that was not going to change, and that I didn't want to spend another 30 years either feeling complacent or slowly becoming more and more miserable like my co-workers. 

Ben and I started the conversation about me quitting before the end of my 2nd year. Shortly into my 3rd year it became an actual, real conversation. Halfway through that year, I had been accepted into 2 engineering schools and had submitted my letter of resignation, effective at the end of that school year.

So there you have it, my big confession for the day: I'm a quitter! And I regret nothing.  

11 comments :

  1. I TOTALLY get where you're coming from with this-- especially having your husband make twice what you do (remind me again why I paid for law school?)!!!! If only I had a plan that would justify quitting.... sigh. Being an adult is sometimes lame.

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  2. It must have taken a lot of courage to have quit so I think you should be pretty proud of yourself for realizing that it wasn't making you happy!

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  3. I love that quote as well! And I completely agree, it's okay to be a quitter especially if it's something that benefits you! I quite smoking almost a year ago...I'm a quitter!
    -Marley
    http://www.afandlove.blogspot.com/

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  4. I think this is so brave!!! Great post. I hope I get some guts to quit things too :)

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  5. You're so brave! So important to eliminate the negativity!

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  6. Hey Tracy! That is awesome! Good for you girl!! Seriously. That is major and you did it. Kudos and good luck with everything you do! ;) xx

    Lisa,xo

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  7. I think that's an awesome thing to do! You spend so much of your life working, you should enjoy and not settle!!

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  8. Good for you! I went through a little "what am I doing with my life" crisis after leaving college and actually substitute taught for a couple months and your point about having to be "on" while at work is SO TRUE! I could never put into words what exactly bothered me the most about teaching but that is exactly it!

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  9. That's awesome! I quit my job last spring because my boss was a big bully and made it miserable to go to work. You'll be so much happier and a new opportunity will always present itself!

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  10. I wouldn't say you're a quitter. You evaluated the situation very thoroughly and made the right decision for your well-being. Especially since you didn't love it and the pay stunk. As a mother, I'd rather have people who LOVE to teach in the classroom because then I know that he is going to be taken care of. Not someone's burden, ya know. What kind of engineer? I'm an architectural engineer (used to design heating and cooling systems for buildings).

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  11. Thanks so much for writing about this and sending me the link! I get very afraid of talking about my mixed feelings about teaching. I empathize with so much of this! The negativity is the hardest part for me. I feel like I can't even talk to some co-workers about something positive that happened because they're dead set on being cranky. I do understand what everyone is mad about all the time. But you're right! It's endless. I also really struggle with feeling like I need to be "on". I think I am a completely different person at school than at home and while I like both versions, I don't know that I like that feeling. I know I'm not ready to quit yet but I have NO idea where I would go from here. So nice to read about someone else's experience with this, you have no idea! Now I need to read your new post, too!

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