The Second Best Day in October

Today I want to take a pause from our regularly-scheduled programming to wish a very happy birthday to a very special someone: my husband, Ben!


Ben is exactly 50 weeks (that's almost a year!) older than I am, so he's obviously much smarter and wiser than I am. Since this is this is the 10th birthday of his that I've been around to celebrate, here are 10 things this old man has taught me:

1. Don't take anything too seriously (especially yourself). Whereas I can work myself into a tailspin over basically nothing, Ben is (almost) always cool as a cucumber. He doesn't let things get to him or stress him out. Most things aren't that important.

2. Sleep in. I'm the person who sets 10 alarms and gets up early because I have approximately 50 million things to do. I don't even think Ben uses an alarm clock. On weekends he's happy to sleep in and have lazy days. I admire his ability to relax!

3. Do things because they're the right thing to do, not because you want to. Ben takes care of a lot of our annoying household chores, like taking care of our animals. Not that our animals are annoying, but taking the dog outside in the middle of winter and scooping litter boxes is annoying. He pretty much takes care of all the things I don't want to do. I know he doesn't want to do them either, but he knows someone has to, and he never complains.

4. Work shouldn't feel like work. With my big career change last year, this has been a hot topic in our household for quite a while. Ben is one of those people who always knew what he wanted to do with his life and, as a result, he's happy to go to work every day. He fully supports me trying to find the same happiness.

5. You can't do everything all at once. I get overwhelmed easily when I feel like I can't handle everything on my plate. I have so many things to get done, all of equal importance and time sensitivity...or at least that's how I see them. Ben has taught me to take a step back, try to prioritize, and maybe recognize that I might have to let go of one or two things.

6. Positive thoughts, positive deeds! This is his mantra and he tells it to me nearly every day. No negative talk allowed.

7. Don't take "no" for an answer. If you want something badly enough, you can make it happen. It might not be easy, but it can be done.

8. It's always a good time for dessert. Ben has never even had a pound of extra weight on his body, and he is not afraid to take advantage of that by eating whatever he wants, whenever he wants. It's not uncommon for him to come to bed at 11pm with a slice of pie or bowl of ice cream. I've quickly learned that that's not such a bad thing.

9. No dream is too big. Ben has never once batted an eye at my crazy running goals. He didn't balk when I told him I wanted to quit my job and go back to school. His response is always, "Of course you can! How can I help?" He supports and believes in my dreams as fervently as if they were his own.

10. It will all work out in the end. When I'm stressed out and don't know which way is up or how to get from Point A to Point B, Ben is always the one to tell me it's going to be okay. Not because that's what he's supposed to say or because he thinks it will make me feel better, but because he truly believes it. It will work out, because it has to. There is no other way.

Happiest of happy days, Ben! You have undoubtedly made me a better person.  You are the smartest, hardest-working, most genuine, and selfless person I have ever met. I still have so much to learn!

14 comments :

  1. Happy Birthday Ben! Hope he has a wonderful day!

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  2. Happy Happy Birthday, Ben! Hope you both have a wonderful day! And eat lots of dessert in bed tonight :)

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  3. Loved this (especially 6 & 8)-- happy birthday to Ben!

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  4. Happy Birthday Ben!!! It's funny because I'm 2 days short of being exactly 6 months older than Peter! I bet I've taught him so much :P What are you guys doing to celebrate?!

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  5. Happy birthday to your husband! He sounds like a great guy.

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  6. Man. Aren't husbands the BEST?! Happy happy birthday to your main squeeze! Hope he has a wonderful day!

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  7. Aww, happy birthday Ben! And Tracy, you're so lucky to have found a great guy like him :)

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  8. Happy birthday to Ben! You guys seem like such great complements to one another. I'm wondering if I could schedule a Skye conference session with Ben? I could stand to learn some of these lessons too, haha!

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  9. So sweet!! Happy birthday to Ben and hope you guys have a great time celebrating!!

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  10. Today is my birthday too! October 16th is definitely a great day. Happy birthday to Ben!

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  11. Ben sounds like one smart man!!!!! I love the 10 things he's taught you. Definitely keep him around! ;)

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  12. aw happy birthday to Ben! I love the 10 things. I wish my husband liked desserts more.. well he does, but he doesn't like them in the house :( boo. wish I had Ben's ability to eat and not have an extra pound on my body lol

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  13. Happy Birthday to Ben! And I'm definitely with Ben on the desserts. It's ALWAYS a good time for some sweets. :)

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  14. Happy Birthday Ben! It sounds like our hubby's have some very similar characteristics!

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