The State of the Blog

I've had to bite my tongue a lot lately, lest an "I don't have time" or an "I'm too busy" slip out. I've shared with a lot of you that my personal philosophy is that we all have time to do things - we each get 24 hours in a day, no more when we need them, no less when we don't want them - and we choose to spend that time however we see fit. Of course there are general life duties that take up a lot of most people's time, and then there are the things we choose to spend time on. But as much as I hate those phrases, the fact remains that I am busy. My free time, at least this summer, has been pretty limited. After I factor in work (and all the getting ready, commuting, etc. that goes along with that), training for a half-Ironman, and making sure that all the little furry creatures in my house plus one and a half humans (I don't do a great job of taking care of myself so I can't even count as one whole person) are alive and well, I just don't have a whole lot left over. 

The current state of my free time is absolutely a direct reflection of the choices I've made about how to divvy it up, but the day is still finite. I'm never going to have the 9 hours of work + 2 hours of training + 2 hours of leisure time + an hour of yoga + an hour to sit down for dinner + an hour of reading before bed + hour of cleaning my house + a couple hours to keep up with blogging + 8 hours of sleep that I want, because I'm pretty sure that puts me up near 30 hours per day and that's just...not how time or math work. I started writing this post on my phone yesterday during the last 12 minutes of my lunch break (I used the first 18 to read and respond to other posts, in case you were wondering) and I'm finishing it today at 4:45am. Okay now it's actually 6:30am (I went back to sleep after I got up to run and realized it was storming outside) and I'm supposed to be 
getting ready for work.  Okay, now I'm actually finishing over 3 days after I first started writing it.

I've noticed some new faces over the last month - and hi, I'm SO glad you're here, but I'm surprised you actually decided to stick around for what has been a poor excuse for a blog as of late. BUT! I'm still really happy you're here and wanted to give you, and longtime readers, and sometimes readers, and first-time readers, an idea of why things have been the way they've been lately. I also wanted to let you know that it wont' always be this way. I'm not formally abandoning this space or announcing a hiatus, but things will continue to be sporadic for a while. I'm wrapping up my job this week, moving back to the other side of the state next weekend, heading to the other side of the country for a week after that, and then I'll be working on re-establishing a routine. So while I can't guarantee any normalcy over the next few weeks, I can tell you that things are going to get better soon (at least that's what I keep telling myself).

As for the blog...normal things like weekly Sunday Sweats will remain a staple. I don't blame you if you skip them - a lot of times I don't even want to write them, but I do because I know I'll be happy to have them to look back on - but know that they do usually contain some snippets of normal life as well, in case you're interested in that. I don't want this to be a fitness-focused blog, though,  (apologies for the shift in that direction lately) and I promise I have other posts in drafts that I just haven't made the time to hammer out yet. They're in the works and I'll have them out as soon as I can, but maybe not with any great consistency. Some things you can expect to see in the coming days/weeks:

A big capsule wardrobe update:
I'm about to jump off the deep end, for real this time, and I'm SO EXCITED.

Why owning a home isn't part of my American Dream:
I bought a house when I was 23 and after almost 5 years of home ownership, I want to tell you why I wish I hadn't and that there's nothing wrong with the fact that you don't own a home

An update about where I stand on the kid issue
Last year I wrote this post about how I'm unsure if I ever want to be a mom. It was the first time I had really put myself out there on the blog and I got such an overwhelmingly positive and constructive response. I've been thinking lately about how my feelings have changed since then and thought I would share an update.

Anti-social crap that I've done recently/usually do on a daily basis:
Maybe it's being around a new group of people all day every day at work, but I've really started to take note of my anti-social behaviors lately. Just because I've noticed them doesn't mean I plan on changing them, though. Don't be ridiculous. 

I'm a ball of fun, can't you tell? I'm great at parties.

I usually hate seeing blog posts like this, so I'm not sure why I'm writing this. I know I don't owe anyone an explanation and that I am free to come and go here as I please without worrying about anyone's expectations. But even if it's not owed, I don't think anyone ever takes issue with a heads up, right? If my blog feed tells me anything, it's that I'm not the only one struggling to get posts up lately!

21 comments :

  1. you don't ow anyone an explanation! to me, blogging will always take a back seat to life and you're right - these days many are struggling to post anything (myself included) that aren't boring "lists" or picture vomit or crap that no one wants to read. take care of your shizz and come back when you feel like it. i find that when you have the inspiration to write, the posts flow and are way more interesting!

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  2. Sunday Sweats is my favorite, I'm glad it will be sticking around! I said this yesterday, but I'll say it again, thanks for being so honest and open on your blog. I'm looking forward to some of those posts you have sitting in drafts! I especially want to hear why owning a home isn't part of your American Dream. Owning a home has been on my mind a lot lately and I know I'm not ready so I'd love to hear why it isnt even part of your dream.

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  3. P.S.- I wish more people would be on board with the not-owning-a-house thing. I bought my first house when I was barely 22 (they shouldn't allow people so young to do such stupid things) and then said never again. Of course, C and I own a (different) house now, but we both joke that the minute he dies I'm selling it and moving into an apartment... all the while knowing that it's totally true. haha

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  4. I think it's normal for blogs to wax and wane. I have definitely experienced the same thing. I'm curious to read your thoughts about becoming a mom. I said I never wanted to be, and everyone told me that would change, and it definitely has!

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  5. The thing is, while yes, we all have 24 hours in a day, the truth is we don't control those 24 hours. We can't control things like meetings that run longer than they should, or commuter traffic being backed up because of an accident, or feeling sick and moving at a slower pace (in life, on the run, mentally, etc.), or other people demanding more of our time than we had planned on spending. It's okay to say your busy, and it's even okay to say you're TOO busy, when it's true. You are *too busy* to add anything else into your day, and that's okay. You acknowledge that you've made a choice to be this busy. It's okay to wish there was more time in the day so you can fill it with more things, because the world is full of cool ways to fill time. Okay, sorry about that little tangent. Moving on.

    Looking forward to the post you've got coming up—at your convenience of course :) I remember your kids post last year and can't wait to see your update. And yes, I completely agree with you about home-ownership in modern America. And finally, you are a ball of fun so shhh. Hope you have a good week <3

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  6. There really is only so many hours in a day. You know how I feel about the "busy" issue, though. We won't get into that. I agree with you. :P

    And I've said this so many times. You are a ROCK STAR. You seriously have the best heart and your work ethic is unparalleled. I admire you for taking the road less traveled to achieve your dreams, so many people don't.

    As the wife of someone who is marathon training right now (and a former marathon trainee myself) I cannot imagine how much time your training is taking. That's an insane amount of time, so pat yourself on the back. The fact that you're sticking with it is amazing.

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  7. It's like life takes on a whole new world sometimes... life changes - making our time AND blog posts change.. everything will smooth out soon enough :)

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  8. I totally agree about owning a home. We dove into home ownership a little over three years ago and put a ton of money into our house and then decided to go back to school ha! We're lucky that we have a great renter in there now who covers most expenses, but there is so much upkeep and I'm just hoping that furnace doesn't blow! I love the freedom that renting gives us and we have no plans to buy again anytime soon. I know I'll want to own again someday, but we're certainly going to think a little longer and harder before we dive in again. As of now, we're in pretty good shape with the house we own, but it really can be more of a burden! Looking forward to your other posts no matter when you get around to them :-)

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  9. Sometimes I think this type of post is even more important to the blogger than the readers. Because I'll come back no matter what you put up, but it kind of sorts through your own personal hectic life stuff when you have to explain it to someone else. Looking forward to the posts you mentioned! I'm interested in all those topics. :) Good luck with the move and job and training and and and... Lol!

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  10. You are so right that we all get to divvy up our days according to how we want to (other than our usual obligations, of course). I find it so hard to make time for myself aside from work sometimes and I love when I do!!! I'm glad you're showing up here... I have missed you! I can't wait to read your upcoming stuff, lady!

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  11. I read this and interpret it as pure honesty. "Hi, I'm Tracy and this is what's up". Straight to the point. I like it! :)

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  12. when you said 'one and a half humans' my eyebrows basically disappeared into my hair, until you explained it lol.

    lol @ not how time or math work. just reading about all that in 'one day' made me tired.

    I am so excited for your capsule wardrobe deep end jumping. I can't wait to hear more about it! I also can't wait to hear about not owning a home. We obviously do, and we enjoy it, but if we move to Australia there is no way we'll ever be able to.

    and oooh yes I want your update on the kids. I want updates on all the things. I am so nosy. You are a ball of fun, so hush. I know we all have the same amount of time in a day, and while I'm not trying to tooth my own horn (vomit) I've had people ask me before how I blog so much and the 100% truth is because I don't do much else. I really don't. Free time is important to me - not saying it's not important to you! but hopefully you know what I mean - and I am crazy lazy.

    Anywho. Going to stop rambling now.

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  13. I like posts like this because you get little snippets of life anyways. I love your capsule wardrobe posts so I can't wait to see that come around. While Chris and I own our home and enjoy owning one...I can totally see why it isn't for everyone all the time. I don't think I followed you when you posted your kid talk post but it is funny that I had a similar post like that drafted a year or two ago...and maybe I don't really feel that way now...and I had to laugh at your anti-social comment about not changing them. I do the same thing! You always seem to have so much going on, I honestly don't know how you do it. Blogging is easy for me because while I have some side projects I work on...most of my extra time I am either working out, reading, or blogging. I dont have school or marathons to worry about after work!

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  14. Blogging is time-consuming... it's completely cool if you have to step back for a while. I'm looking forward to your post about owning a home. I purchased a home when I was 23 and it was the biggest mistake of my life. People stress that it is an investment when really the amount of my mortgage payment that goes to interest and taxes is more than a rent payment.

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  15. I love this post-- and it made me so anxious for all your next posts-- and to hear about your trip once you guys get back! I'm dying in suspense to hear about the capsule wardrobe update! I'm trying so hard to figure out how to make the most of my time still- I woke up at 5:45 one day and loved the extra time in the morning to be productive before work, but even though I tried to get up that early again it just doesn't happen for me. Also, how are you already finishing up your job? I feel like you were just looking for the place for the summer. Time flies :)

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  16. Sounds like you've got some good posts ideas lined up! But I totally get not having time for blogging. I bet training takes up a ton of time!

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  17. Honestly I'm not in the northern hemisphere so we're experiencing winter but I have definitely noticed a lack of blogging from my US blogs that I follow and I think that's totally ok because, hey life is happening, right now. All the best with well, everything ;) I look forward to reading your posts when they are finished x

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  18. You most certainly dont owe me an explanation and even if you did I would completely and full understand. I start so many posts on my phone because the days are actually finite as you say. Do you. When you post ill read - not going anywhere friend.

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  19. I'll still be around friend! I love catching up with you. Sometimes I feel like we could be besties if we lived in the same state because our personalities seem so similar and our triathlon/running/yoga interests are the same. :) Hope everything settles down soon. I know it's not fun to be in so much limbo! Praying for you!

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  20. Thanks for the post - I've been feeling the same way. Been juggling a few things (hopefully I can share in a few weeks) and been prioritizing other activities over blogging. Hope you are having a great time in SF!

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  21. Hi Tracy! I just stumbled across your blog on a dreary "the dog woke me up and I can't get back to sleep early morning" and love what I've seen so far! Hopefully I don't sound like a stalker but I coincidentally happen to live in Southwest Virginia also, and I'm currently on a mission to transform from a couch potato to a "runner" (just starting out and can't even jog slowly for 60 full seconds, but hoping to work my way up eventually!).

    I think a lot of us bloggers go through phases where we don't have a lot to write about, or just can't find the time to post regularly. That's okay though. For us lifestyle bloggers that don't *make money* off our blog, it's usually the first thing to give when we're strapped for time. Anyone worthy of being a reader will stick around. ;)

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