What's New: April

It was the best of times, it was the worst of times...

The past few weeks (months?) have been a doozy for me. I've been swinging back and forth on the pendulum of good and bad, stopping for a few beats on either end but never getting to spend any substantial amount of time in the middle and just...be. On the good side, things are great, but on the bad side, they are...draining. The bad is temporary, not life-altering or devastating - which I know I am so fortunate for - and it's the kind of bad that has a precise end date. It doesn't feel good to be on the bad side, but luckily every so often (yet not often enough), I do get to swing back to the good, to people and places and things that help ground me and remind me that this too shall pass. Here's a sampling of the goings-on from this month:

I think we were only in town one weekend in the last month, which has been more stressful than anything honestly, but this past weekend was one worth traveling for. What was originally scheduled as Cherry Blossom weekend with some of my favorite girls turned into apartment-hunting weekend with Ben, since I both found out that a) I'm moving to DC! and b) I can't run right now :(. So instead of doing pre-race prep, Ben and I spent Friday and Saturday looking at apartments. It's been a dream of ours for a few years now to move to a city (I was thinking more like NYC or Boston, but as long as it's on the east coast and further north than where I live now, I'm not picky) and I couldn't believe it was happening. Not just that it was happening, but that I made it happen. Ben has always been (and, by virtue of his industry and the fact that he has 7+ years of a head start on me, always will be) the breadwinner in our family, so his job has always come before mine. I've never faulted or blamed him for that, but I'll admit that it stings sometimes, and part of the reason I went back to school for engineering is because I knew it would put me at least closer to him in terms of job flexibility and pay. We've had several homes in several different cities and states over the years, and each one has been a decision that we've made together, but knowing that I'm the leader on this one makes it feel a little different.

We had planned to tour 12 different apartments/condos in a 24-hour span. We looked at 5 on Friday and found 2 we really liked, but we got a curveball on Saturday morning and ended up canceling the rest of our appointments for that morning and afternoon. We are now the proud new residents of a luxury apartment - which was not at all what we thought we'd end up in and caught us totally off guard - in the U Street Corridor of Washington, D.C. and cannot wait to be be full-time residents of the District! Our lease actually started last weekend, so we're heading up again this weekend to figure out furniture logistics and, honestly, to hang out in our cool new apartment. Best news of all, we went ahead and finally bought a new king sized mattress (since our child-sized dog has been seriously hogging our queen for the last 4 years) and it's waiting for us in our new place! Snaps from the rooftop deck are almost guaranteed (tracyschoenfeld - add me!).

So I'm in my last semester of engineering school and taking two design courses. One in particular is a really unique course that allows me to work on a real project with a real firm and solve real problems - understandably, it's one of the crown jewels of my school's program. But with this real-world project comes real-world time commitments and deadlines. For the last week, with the exception of about 60 hours for our DC trip last weekend, I've worked around the clock and I've stayed up until 3am and I haven't been able to do everything I want and need to do and that has left me very overwhelmed and frustrated. Like, I know - life is hard, get a helmet - but real talk, I'm beyond exhausted and just want my normal life back.

I did get to take a break this past weekend in DC to table my real-life stressors and focus on the future and friends, and that is what really matters. On Saturday I met up with Alyssa and Carly for lunch in my new neighborhood! I was signing my lease while simultaneously texting them since they'd be arriving any minute. I don't remember how exactly it came up but I told the leasing agent we were working with that I was meeting with friends soon, and as I thought about how I was going to explain that none of us lived in the city yet we were meeting for lunch, it struck me how truly amazing it was that there I was in DC, having traveled from the southern corner of Virginia, and heading out to meet friends from Maryland and New Jersey. And if that weren't enough, later on I got to have dinner with Lisa, yet another friend from another state (North Carolina for those keeping score at home), and be part of the Lisa, Alyssa, and Brian Cheerleading Squad at the Cherry Blossom 10-Miler on Sunday and just...how crazy is life? I really can't say it any better than Carly: "I know everyone says this, but you really don't expect to start a blog & make real friends that just get you."

I went to the doctor again this week for my foot, since it really hasn't improved very much in the last couple weeks. It's been 3 weeks since I first felt pain in it and 2.5 weeks since I really injured it at Shamrock, and it improved for the first few days but has more or less felt the same for the last 2 weeks. I got an X-ray done to confirm it's not a stress fracture, and the doctor felt my foot again to find the points of pain and told me once again that she didn't think it's plantar fasciitis, since it doesn't quite hurt in that area. She reiterated that she thinks it's a stress reaction and that it will probably just take time to heal (4-6 weeks was her guess), which is both relieving and frustrating at the same time. I would be lying if I said this little break and excuse to be lazy lazier than someone who normally works out 8-10 hours/week wasn't completely welcomed, but I'm also ready to hit the road again. This injury has helped me realize that I do think I'm a triathlete more than I'm a runner, but missing that third piece of the puzzle and not really ever being sure what my body can handle right now has really tanked my motivation and discipline. I'm currently on my longest running break since May 2013. I've worked out less in the last 3 weeks than I have in years. The fact that the past couple of weeks have been super busy and stressful for me certainly hasn't helped matters. I have an Ironman training plan starting in June and an 8-week base-building plan scheduled to start on Monday. I'm ready to get back to a normal routine (even if the running portion of the plan will mean getting on the elliptical...).

I try not to gush about Ben (special occasions excepted), but with everything that's been going on lately, I have been more grateful than ever to have him as my forever sidekick. He's repeatedly brought me dinner when I've been stuck in the lab, he's taken me to my foot appointments because I hate going to the doctor and forget what to say and ask when I get there, and he's been so excited and helpful with our upcoming move. Our 10-year dating anniversary (May 20) is fast-approaching and it has been blowing. my. mind. thinking back to where were then and where we are now. I never in a million years could have predicted we'd have already made so many of our dreams come true and would be just getting started on so many more. And he's always been amazing to me, but ten years later he's surpassed every expectation of everything I could ever have hoped for in a partner. I'm forever grateful for his fierce and unending support as I've chased my dreams over the last few years, and I'm so excited for our next chapter together. I am the luckiest.

Although school is seriously sucking my soul these days, I actually had a hard time coming up with an even number of bests and worsts for this lists, so all in all, I guess things are pretty good. I hope you all have the BEST weekend! I'm finally getting to take a little break from work and head to my new city, so I know I will <3

Other, not-as-important things that were great this month:
American Crime Story: The People vs. OJ Simpson 
I was in 3rd(?) grade when this was going on, and I actually remember where and when I heard the verdict but obviously I had no idea of the scope of the case. I've loved Ryan Murphy since Popular (my middle school BFF and I were obsessed) and think I've watched all of his shows except The New Normal. It was so interesting to get some of the background and context of this case that I never knew because I was um, 7, when it was going on. The show was just so well done and also I LOVE Sarah Paulson.

The White Album by Weezer - the first truly great Weezer album since Pinkerton. Like, it's kind of unbelievably good.
Life of Pablo by Kanye West - I don't care what your personal feelings are about Kanye, you cannot listen to this and deny that this man is amazing at what he does.

Getting to have a truly once-in-a-lifetime experience at the zoo - My friend works at the zoo as a vet tech (coolest job EVER, amirate?!) and I know it's going to sound all mysterious if I'm like "...but I can't talk about it" but...I can't talk about it :/ I just wanted to have it written down that this cool thing happened...

Carol Lee doughnuts - This doughnut shop is legendary in our town and I am embarrassed that it took me this long to try them. But in an effort to make up for lost time, we've gotten 1.5 dozen in the last 2 weeks. YOLO is still a thing, right?

Linking up with Kristen and Gretchen!
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  1. Sounds like your life has been a whirlwind recently! I continue to hope your foot heals up quickly! Being busy can be so much fun but so terrible at the same time. I want to run so badly, but coaching softball has me on the go all. the. time. It's been more fun than I actually expected, but I'm so ready for a break! I don't see how basketball coaches do it! Our season is half as long as theirs, and I feel like I'm ready to collapse.

    The move to DC sounds so dang exciting, and I'm glad the apartment situation worked out well. Michael and I are hoping to make a short trip to DC this summer for a soccer game. I'll have to let you know if we end up in your area. ;)

  2. I don't know if you're like me in this regard, but I always find it easier to deal with the bad (or stressful, or frustrating) when I know it's temporary. Luckily for you, this season has a very clear and very tangible end date. It will pass! And soon! Sure, new stresses will crop up when you transition into the next season, and you'll handle them with grace as always.

    I cannot WAIT to see you thrive in your new career and put yourself on the map in your industry and your new city. I also cannot wait to be the recipient of AND take of said rooftop snaps ;)

    And yes, life is hard, get a helmet... but also forgive yourself for being a human who needs sleep and rest and peace and calm. There's no sense in wearing "overworked" like a badge of honor, so as much as it sucks that schoolwork has taken up so much time, don't fault yourself for being exhausted from it. You're a human.

    Obviously I don't need to say much about how much I love blogging for bringing us to each other, but aw. Real talk. <3

    We've talked about your injury and running, so just hugs. Hugs to you and Ben too as you celebrate this milestone—you guys are a wonderful and inspiring team!

  3. I am LOVING ACS as well. I've heard so much about the case but like you I don't know the specifics, so it's just fascinating to me. I'm only on episode 4 so I'm really interested to see how the case breaks down on the prosecutors and what happens with Sarah Paulson's character. She's amazing! Actually, all of the actors are amazing. Thanks for linking up with us, and I hope April has more good/"best" moments than bad/"worst"!

  4. How exciting that you guys signed a lease on a new place in DC!!!!! And that you got to see lots of bloggers in a weekend from all over. It is so hard to explain to nonbloggers how all of our cross country friends work! They just dont get it! I hope that you get to feeling better with your foot and al. Sounds like you have a real keeper taking care of you!

  5. Congrats on the move! I literally just saw your snap :) The draining parts of life can really be a drain. Im so sorry about your foot and the lack of running etc. I hope that it all comes together soon.

  6. I'm sorry about your foot but so excited for you about the move to DC! You sure sound fancy living in a luxury apartment and all. I don't know if we can be blog friends anymore ;)

  7. So glad you will be a few blocks from me! Once you have DC residency FREE pool access :) FYI - Marie Reed (Adams Morgan) is probably the closet, but not the nicest pool (old). Wilson is really nice and I think I heard Dunbar has a newish pool, but I haven't checked it out yet.

  8. SO exciting that you guys found a place you love in such a great area of D.C. I can't wait to hear/see more about it once you get all moved in. HECK YES to the king mattress- you deserve it ;) One day we'll upgrade hehe! I hope your foot heals faster for you, injuries are tough for people like me who are just casual work-out fans (ha!) I can't imagine how tough it is to just wait it out.

  9. It was so good to see you guys and I'm so excited you guys found the perfect apartment so quickly and obviously even more excited that you'll be living so much closer-- and definitely jealous of your rooftop deck! So maybe the timing of everything with your foot is for the best in some weird way. Assuming you're healed up before you start training for ironman in June. You have so much going on between moving and finishing up your program and such a huge project. Have you been able to still swim and bike at all, or are you just trying to totally rest your foot as much as possible? and oh my gosh, popular! I haven't thought of that show in YEARS, but I used to love it too! And I have to share your Kanye comments with my husband because that's basically what he's told me about him too and I'm just like noooo, haha ;) and feel free to bring an extra donut to dc the next time you come up.

  10. first off, sorry for getting to this late! but thank you for linking up with us :)
    oh no, curveball? but yay for perfect apartment and king size mattress!!!!! that is the best, right?! and yay for blogging friends and meeting up with everyone while you were there.
    i'm so sorry about your foot, but at least it isn't PF? i know that doesn't help. but your paragraph about Ben is just the sweetest thing ever, seriously! i love it. i love looking back and seeing how far KC and I have come, and we've only known each other for (almost) 6 years. but 10 years! congrats. love it.
    omg the zoo thing!! how exciting! i don't know what it is, but it sounds amazing.
    i'm so happy and excited for your new career and DC life. you totally deserve this!

  11. I love following you on Snapchat if only for our &pizza snaps...which I will need to live vicariously through you for awhile. I definitely want to come visit you guys once you're settled so we can do fun DC things ! And you are THE BEST cheerleader ever and I can't wait to return the favor for you :)


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